Looking back over the last few days, maybe even the last week, I have done my fair share of "counseling". Children, friends, friends of children and even the occasional stranger (ok the stranger didn't need couseling-she just asked me which lipstick looked better at Wal Mart!).
Do not think for a second that believe I have all the answers, or any answers---ok I'm not even sure what the question was!! But my stand when it comes to advice is be truthful--even if it hurts a little.
I don't mind a superficial complement to get thru a little chit chat, but real talk among real friends requires guts. Have the guts to say what you think. Have the guts to be truthful with a friend. Have the guts to take the tough advice when its coming at you.
Too many people are quick to take the "none of my business" attitude and privacy is hard to come by these days, but we were all put here on this planet to help one another thru our journey. Take a chance and care enough to listen, pray and tell people how you see things.
I think the world has more than its share of "yes men". We don't need to hear "yes" all the time, we need the truth.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Friday, January 6, 2012
Over-Analization--how you mock me! Grrr.
My dad always said that I was my own worst enemy. I thought he was just kinda copping out to a real answer, but as uaual, he was right.
Don't get me wrong--thinking things thru is still the best bet and I've missed the mark a few dozen times where that is concerned, but seriously.
Why is it that some of us get stuff stuck in our heads like a dog with a big ol' bone. This goes hand in hand with my no-worry zone resolution. Make a decsion and go on....really! Everyone does realize at this point that this is fully intended TO myself FROM myself? Right?
The only thing worse than someone talking to themselves, is involving others in that interal dialogue---its called internal for a reason! (but I digress!)
Thought for today and everyday--Do what you can for yourself and your loved ones in the best way you can and then go on with life--never understood that whole Carpe Diem thing.
Maybe now I do.
Don't get me wrong--thinking things thru is still the best bet and I've missed the mark a few dozen times where that is concerned, but seriously.
Why is it that some of us get stuff stuck in our heads like a dog with a big ol' bone. This goes hand in hand with my no-worry zone resolution. Make a decsion and go on....really! Everyone does realize at this point that this is fully intended TO myself FROM myself? Right?
The only thing worse than someone talking to themselves, is involving others in that interal dialogue---its called internal for a reason! (but I digress!)
Thought for today and everyday--Do what you can for yourself and your loved ones in the best way you can and then go on with life--never understood that whole Carpe Diem thing.
Maybe now I do.
Monday, January 2, 2012
My New Year Resolution---I hope.
I don't think I have ever been real serious about the whole New Years resolution thing. It always seemed that it was a bit of a jinx for anything you really wanted to accomplish! Sorta like the reseason rankings for football teams--its the kiss of death!
But I knew I had some serious mental/spiritual issues going on for quite some time now and denial (although one of my favorite talents I have locked on to in later years) was not gonna do it for me this time. Not without a possible trip to the funny farm (I guess I better scrap that phrase since Missy wants to be a physcologist)!
Anyhoo, I admit whole heartedly that I have locked on to "worry" like it is my drug of choice!! It sucks. If I am sitting in traffic--I worry. If I wake up in the middle of the night--I worry. If I am sitting and watching TV--I worry. Get the picture? Its my go to. And it has interferred with my ability to have joy in my life for quite a while now.
But something a priest talked about one day at Mass kept coming back to me over and over. He has a horrible fear of flying and had come to the realization that worrying about it wasnt going to keep that plane in the air. Trust in science--trust the pilot--really trust God.....and GET on the plane.
Now I know what I have to do because worry isn't going to keep my kids safe, add money to thier bank account(or mine!),get my daughter into the college of her dreams, make my husband happy at his job,take 5 inches off my waist or any number of things I keep on that damn worry list!
I am going to start practising what I preach to those who listen to me(scarry huh?) The kids at my Confirmation class, my children and the friends I have that think I have a brain(I love you guys!). I am going to remeber the words of Psalms I saw on FB the other day--"When I am afraid, I will trust in You". (It is a good thing that scripture found Facebook or was it the other way around?) Thats what worry is for me, fear. And I'm tired of being afraid.
"When I am afraid, I will trust in You." Ps 56:3
But I knew I had some serious mental/spiritual issues going on for quite some time now and denial (although one of my favorite talents I have locked on to in later years) was not gonna do it for me this time. Not without a possible trip to the funny farm (I guess I better scrap that phrase since Missy wants to be a physcologist)!
Anyhoo, I admit whole heartedly that I have locked on to "worry" like it is my drug of choice!! It sucks. If I am sitting in traffic--I worry. If I wake up in the middle of the night--I worry. If I am sitting and watching TV--I worry. Get the picture? Its my go to. And it has interferred with my ability to have joy in my life for quite a while now.
But something a priest talked about one day at Mass kept coming back to me over and over. He has a horrible fear of flying and had come to the realization that worrying about it wasnt going to keep that plane in the air. Trust in science--trust the pilot--really trust God.....and GET on the plane.
Now I know what I have to do because worry isn't going to keep my kids safe, add money to thier bank account(or mine!),get my daughter into the college of her dreams, make my husband happy at his job,take 5 inches off my waist or any number of things I keep on that damn worry list!
I am going to start practising what I preach to those who listen to me(scarry huh?) The kids at my Confirmation class, my children and the friends I have that think I have a brain(I love you guys!). I am going to remeber the words of Psalms I saw on FB the other day--"When I am afraid, I will trust in You". (It is a good thing that scripture found Facebook or was it the other way around?) Thats what worry is for me, fear. And I'm tired of being afraid.
"When I am afraid, I will trust in You." Ps 56:3
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